Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Apologies and a Reply to a Reply

I am sorry. I really am. I know I say that a lot, that I joke about it, but today I am really truly sorry.

My spirit is grieved.

In my love for and defense of the unborn and unknown children, I have failed to love my sisters in Christ. For that I am deeply, sincerely sorry.

I woke up this morning and the first thing I did was check my email. This is nothing unusual, but today I also checked beautyfromchaos.com a blog written by an amazing, godly, lovely woman named Jes.

Jes had written a post about some of the effects of chemical birth control, one brand of pill in particular. I, in my usual blunt style said some things that did not agree with the majority of the women there. Naturally, I wanted to see how they responded. I read through them and as I did, I felt those familiar defenses rise. In particular, the quoting of that way over used and highly misused "Judge Not" verse upset me. It's one of my pet peeves you could say... right up there with calling Christian Rock music evil.

After reading those replies I went straight for my Bible and spent the next several hours searching the Scriptures. As I searched, God was whacking me over the head. That might be a slight exaggeration, but not much of one. Over and over again I read to love. Rebuke, yes. Correct, you'd better believe it. Speak the hard truths, we are commanded. BUT DO IT LOVINGLY, GWEN!!!

I spouted off before I prayed. Maybe God would have given me different words. Or maybe those were the right words but my heart attitude would have affected the way my words were received. I'll never know. I cannot undo what I did, but I can pray that hearts will be changed in spite of my foolishness. I pray that hearts will be changed, because this is an important thing. This is life or death. This is when we put our faith into action.

I know better now. I know that debates over the Internet rarely end well. Typed and written words simply can not convey the emotions and inflections of the human voice. It was not my intention to wound.

This next bit is something that does not bring me any satisfaction. I would rather be done with this topic as it is a source of great grief to me and yet I know that the grief I feel is minuscule in comparison to the way God grieves over these children. Perhaps in reading what I am about to say, someones heart and mind is changed. I pray that God gives me the words.

If you are not a Christian or do not believe in the sanctity of life, then you might as well leave now.


I believe that life begins at conception. I cannot think of any other point at which it would occur. If you agree with that statement than stay with me, okay?

If you are a follower of my Lord, Jesus Christ, and you do not believe that statement, than I urge you to search the scriptures and pray.


I'd like to share the story of a woman I know.
She and her husband had been praying and pleading for children and she just thought that she was having late heavy periods. When she talked to her Dr. he informed her that she was ovulating normally, her eggs were being fertilized and then simply were not implanting in her uterus or something like that... I can't remember. She said, "I've been having miscarriages all this time?" She was shocked and extremely upset. Her Dr. gave her a condecending look and replied "Well, if you want to be dramatic about it." She was horrified and justly so. Those were her children. She now has one precious miracle daughter. Her daughter asked her one day, "Mommy, I want a big brother and sister, can you make a big one for me?" and she said, "You do have big brothers and sisters, they're in heaven waiting for you."

I know I did not do that story justice but it touched me
. It made it real. Not just some abstract idea, but real, tangible. Hearing that story only reinforced the truth of what I'm about to say.

If life begins at conception than we can safely say that anytime a fertilized egg does not implant and continue living that a death has occurred. Does that make sense? If you haven't already, I suggest you read Jes' blog about birth control. Here's the link... Birth Control?

Okay, you back with me? We're going to assume that that information is indeed accurate. That when you are having sexual relations with your husband while on birth control there is a possibility of an abortion occurring.

Does this grieve you as much as it does me?

I want to reiterate that I am speaking to my sisters in Christ here. The world can do what it wants to. I do not expect unbelievers to adhere to the moral standards and principles given in Scripture. But God demands it of us. As Christians we answer to God and God alone.

I want to throw out some Scriptures I read today. I pray that you listen with an open heart.

Titus 2:12-15
It teaches us to say "no" to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self controlled, upright, and godly lives in this present age, while we wait for the blessed hope - the glorious appearing of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, who gave Himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for Himself a people that are His very own, eager to do what is good. These then, are the things you should teach. Encourage and rebuke with all authority. Do not let anyone despise you.

James 4:4-10
You adulterous people, don't you know that friendship with the world is hatred toward God? Anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. Or do you think that Scripture says without reason that the Spirit envies intensely? But He gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble." Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Grieve, mourn, and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord and he will lift you up.


1 Peter 1:14-17
As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: "Be holy, because I am holy." Since you call upon a Father who judges each man's work impartially, live your lives as strangers here in reverent fear.

2 Peter 3:11-14
Since everything will be destroyed in this way, what kind of people ought you be? You ought to live holy and godly lives as you look forward to the day of God and speed its coming. That day will bring about the destruction of the heavens by fire, and the elements will melt in the heat. But in keeping with his promise we are looking forward to a new heaven and a new earth, the home of righteousness. So then, dear friends, since you are looking forward to this, make every effort to be found spotless, blameless, and at peace with Him.

1 John 3:4-6

Everyone who sins breaks the law; in fact, sin is lawlessness. But you know that He appeared so that He might take away our sins. And in Him is no sin. No one who lives in Him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen Him or known Him.

Are you seeing a trend or is it just me? We are commanded to live separate, holy, godly, and dare I say radical and fanatical lives. God is deadly serious about sin. Jesus
died for sin. We will be held accountable one day for our actions here on this earth. There is no getting around it. There will be no Dr's excuses. You can't bring your Dr. before God and say "But he said it was the only option." I know that sounds harsh, but believe me when I tell you that I am saying this in love. Agapao love is loving someone in their own best interest. When you spank your child you do it out of love. They don't like it, it hurts, but it could mean the difference between life and death someday. I love you guys. I haven't met you, I haven't read all your stories, but I love you the same.

Yes, ours is a kind, gentle, and forgiving God. But don't forget that his kindness, gentleness, and forgiveness is displayed on the cross. Yes, he is gentle and forgiving of sin, but he is by no means tolerant of sin. Sin is serious. My sin killed my Savior. I want you to know that tears are welling as I think about that things that I've done, the sin I've nurtured and tolerated in my life. If my sin grieves me, what do you think it does to my God? Yes, he will forgive you, but along with that forgiveness, he demands obedience total obedience. He demands that we love his Law that we love his commands. Do I truly love his law? If I do not than I do not truly love God. This was something I worked through just a couple weeks ago. I was convicted of not loving obedience. I was trying to see just how far I could get, just how much I could get away with. I read Romans 1:28 (Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done.) It scared me to death. Why was I toeing the line. Flee from evil Gwen! Flee! Don't see how far you can get but rather how close! You bet it's hard... but do it anyway!

A common theme I was seeing was that in some cases there was no alternative. Ladies, if we believe that those fertilized eggs are living and if you are taking medicine that was designed to keep them from continuing to live, then that is a sin. There must be another way. God would not have allowed you to develop this condition if the only way out was to sin. 1 Corinthians 10:13 comes to mind. (No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.) There must be another way, there must be. This is where your faith becomes action.


Just because 95% of fertilized eggs are naturally aborted does not mean it's okay to abort them purposefully. That's dangerously close to saying just because miscarriages happen naturally it's okay to abort children purposefully. (I could not confirm that number, though I admit I did not spend more than 15 minutes googling it. If someone could send me a link or something to reference that percentage, I'd appreciate it) It is this kind of thinking that has gotten us where we are today as a nation. We are a nation that sacrifices our children for convenience sake! Okay, so we're not actually tossing them in the flames before a graven image, but doesn't this scare you? It gives me goosebumps.

This is what I believe God has told me. If I am wrong, then pray that God will convict me of it. I'll be doing the same for you. I do love you all, though I do not even know your names.

If you have something to add, correct, whatever, please feel free to do so. I am not going to attack you, but do not expect to go unchallenged if what you say does not line up with Scripture. Iron sharpens Iron.

Sharpen away.

In Christ's Love,
Gwen ><>

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